Articles about love, marriage and relationships.
Learn How to Stop Arguing (A step-by-step guide) None of us want to be fighting with our loved ones, yet it doesn’t take much to find ourselves immersed in an argument we can’t get out of. We have a long list of things we’d much rather be doing, yet once we get sucked in, it can take […]Read More
A better alternative to long-term commitment? Gwyneth Paltrow used the term, “conscious uncoupling” to describe her separation, and it has become one of the hottest phrases in pop-psychology ever since. I was excited to be interviewed for this article on conscious uncoupling in the Pittsburg Gazette. As a couples therapist I spend much of my […]Read More
2013 Historical Event: Dr. Sue Johnson, John and Julie Gottman Hold Summit in Seattle The three the top researchers in the world provide expert relationship advice for 1,200 couples therapists to take home to their practices. I am honored by their invitation to report on their conference. Here is a copy of the article they […]Read More
You know you messed up, but not sure how to say sorry? We know from the research of Dr. John and Julie Gottman that people in satisfying long-term relationships are good at repairing their conflicts. This means that after an argument the conflict is resolved enough so that resentment isn’t left mounting and the couple […]Read More
Mistake #1: Criticism: The Blame Game Whether we are talking to our spouse, our boss or our children, one of the most common mistakes is to bring up our complaints in a blaming, global manner. Over the course of a relationship criticisms have a very damaging impact. Example, “What’s wrong with you? You are always […]Read More